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I was just looking at a couple of great videos (by Rory and Clair) and thought about concerns that members voiced in recent times - e.g. about the volcanic ash cloud and media reports of tragic accidents etc. I must admit I had and have the same concerns. But the thought struck me: every day across the world, many millions of passengers are taken from point A to point B by bus drivers, train drivers, cab drivers, ships captains and crews, and airline captains and crews - to mention but a few.
There's also the millions - dare I say billions of us - who use our own cars, motorcycles and bicycles for the same purpose. I know I would never give a second thought to using any one of these modes of transport - except for the airplane!!!! Strange isn't it!! 'cos I regularly drive a motorbike and love being on it. I believe the stats that say flying is statistically the safest mode of transport - by comparison, the road fatalities alone show this.
I think the fear of flying comes from some deep seated sense of it being "un-natural" whereas the other modes of transport are viewed as being more natural and commonplace. Maybe I'm gaining some perspective but I know, deep down, that when I take my next flight, this knowledge and perspective isn't really going to make much difference and I'll be alone with my fears and the battle to overcome them.
The point made in one video by Capt. Keith is absolutely true - its my fear and I have to learn to deal with it and overcome it. I've been reading a good bit about fear, panic and phobia conditions and hope, one day, to go on the course. If I've learned anything its that these "feelings and thoughts" are simply that - feelings and thoughts and while uncomfortable, they are not physiologically dangerous. ( A caveat here is that there's no underlying serious physical condition/s - for which a fearful flyer may need medical advice in advance of taking a flight.). If there was a "magic bullet" cure I'm sure it would have been found years ago and we'd all be happily swanning around in the wild blue yonder. Like I said, its was just a thought that struck me and I put these few comments into the "discussion pot" for what they're worth. Frank.
I too have been thinking along the same lines as you regards the various forms of travel there are and that we don't fear them.
I read a comment recently that said millions of air plane passengers land at there destinations safely every day. However you never see a newspaper headline stating this, and I for one am glad about this! Cause if it did make a headline then it would mean it was an unusual event!
They're worth a lot Frank and thank you for taking the time to post your thoughts.
I try to be as direct, effective and empathetic as possible on this forum and on the site. But you hit the nail on the head when you repeat my words about YOUR fear.
I get annoyed when people advertise on the internet that they can offer a cure ( of almost anything ) in a few minutes or hours or with some simple technique of attitude change or some psycho babble and all the rest of the snake oil sellers.
It's hard work fixing this fear....sometimes it happens with a sentence or a book or on a course...but none of this happens without a lot of effort and heart ache before that moment of realisation.
By the way travelling by car is an amazingly safe way to travel in fact. It's just that planes are even safer.
I'm glad that you feel the network helps. I don't know if you know but I have a page on the main website that deals with the fears that people mention when they log on to this network. I have a long term plan to try to integrate things on each site...but right now I'm asnwering other things during most of my retirement !