What do you do with them?

My next flight’s in 4 weeks (too much flying this year! I’d have had a nervous breakdown by now if I hadn’t found this site) and this time I’ll have two colleagues with me.

I’ve sort of got a strategy now for flying but it’s very internal because I always fly alone. I don’t want to have to force myself to chat with these guys like I normally would. But I hear so much about people having supporters and people to help them and I was just wondering – what do these people actually do and how does it help?

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Hi Sarah 

I think flying with someone is helpful if they understand my situation and how to deal with me, if I do get a panic attack. For my last flight, I was lucky to have my husband who was understanding and supportive. When I keep having negative thoughts, he distracts me by playing trivia games with me or reading gossip magazines to me. 

I have flown with unsympathetic people who usually laugh it off as me "being silly". More than one person has suggested that I get really drunk and pass out. Very unhelpful :( 

For now, I'm not ready to fly alone yet. Though that's something I'm definitely planning to overcome.

Best of luck on your upcoming flight! :)

Cheers, Lyn

Thanks Lyn.

Your husband sounds awesome. I'm not sure how supportive these guys will be. I told one of them yesterday that I get kinda nervous when I fly. He looked at me in utter confusion, thought for a second and then said, 'well I suppose you could have a stroke on the plane, that would be scary... but... you know planes are safe, right?'

Is this really how weird a fear of flying seems to those who don't have one?!

Anyway, we agreed that he'd let me talk to him about being scared if I let him have my meal on the plane, and let him have the aisle seat.

When I tell someone that I have a fear of flying, most of them are usually amused. I rarely meet someone who is sympathetic. In fact I recently went to see a psychiatrist, I thought a combination of psycho-therapy and medication might help me. My psychiatrist loaded me up with a year's supply of anti-anxiety medication and sent me on my way. I was disappointed with his lack of concern, especially so because he shared with me that he also has a fear of flying!

Would you be more comfortable if you sat away from your colleagues?

Best, Lyn

Tablets treat the symptoms not the problem.

Keith

I wonder what he's like with people who break their legs...or have skin problems...or digestive illnesses...or sick children ?   Makes me angry

Sarah said:

Thanks Lyn.

Your husband sounds awesome. I'm not sure how supportive these guys will be. I told one of them yesterday that I get kinda nervous when I fly. He looked at me in utter confusion, thought for a second and then said, 'well I suppose you could have a stroke on the plane, that would be scary... but... you know planes are safe, right?'

Is this really how weird a fear of flying seems to those who don't have one?!

Anyway, we agreed that he'd let me talk to him about being scared if I let him have my meal on the plane, and let him have the aisle seat.

It's weird, isn't it?

When kids have a fear, we're so kind and reassuring and encouraging, but with adults we do a complete 180 and become completely unsympathetic. (Just a random thought after watching a colleague freaking out about a spider and getting zero sympathy from anyone.)

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