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all i can think of is that that was a long time ago and everything is much improved and a repeat very unlikely if at all. i seem to always be surrounded by people asleep, i wish i could join them
Thanks for your interesting post Ed. I imagine being in an enclosed space with people panicking around you must have been a deeply unsettling experience even if, as you say, you weren't panicking with them. I'm wondering whether you think they were panicking because of fear for their country, or because of the very peculiar-sounding statement from the person in charge of their flight? Either way, your fears are certainly not silly and you clearly have a challenge ahead of you assuming you are thinking of flying again. Personally, I would start with some rational thought about the experience and what I know, factually about flying (not the same as feelings, but no less factual): for example, 'I'm not responsible for other people's feelings and behaviour, and I have a choice about what to believe about threat'. For me, statements like this are memorable and rehearsable, and, importantly, true: if I'm following other people's emotional lead in an unthinking way then I'm ignoring what's real - that the plane and crew is behaving normally, and that I have no reliable evidence to the contrary. What's also true is that it was very unlikely you would find yourself in an emotionally-charged situation on a plane in the first place, and that it would be incredibly unlikely for you to be in a similar situation again. I know this kind of rational thinking is not in itself the answer to all our fears - rational thinking can often be the first thing out of the door when something alarming occurs - but it is the most reliable foundation on which to build, and why I personally need to rehearse, practise and look for evidence to back it up regularly if I'm to stand a chance of staying rationally-minded in a stressful situation.
The very best of luck Ed!
Sorry I haven't been around. Your experience must have been very frightening. Now it's time to leave it in the past. But how do you do that? First you must face your fear. You must take another flight and see that perhaps you are not as worried as you are thinking.
Your fears don't sound silly to me and I have to say that I'm pleased that I have never had such an experience, however it is approaching the time that you'll need to change what you've been doing into something that you want to do.
Not easy but we're here top give whatever support you need.
yes almost certainly, but don't pin your hopes on things you can't control ... if you can meet the crew all well and good, if not do something else.