I DID IT!!!!!

Yes me the castrophiser, The prescription drug taker that used to take so many that it knocked me out, that cried all the way to the airport until i got off at the other end, that used to have sleepless nights and nightmares before my flight , that even split up with my husband so I could get out of flying !

But yesterday i came back from holiday, and I didnt take any medication, I didnt cry , and I didn't have a drink (well maybe one just to celebrate). I even videoed the landing because we were in a holding pattern for a few minutes, and get this maybe just a tiny little bit i enjoyed it!!

Let me tell you it wasn't easy. I had to fight my feelings all the time, and it was very exhausting, but the feeling I have right now is just cloud 9.

I completely lost it at the gate when i saw the plane (it didnt help that we tried to board the wrong plane first lol) I was screaming at my husband to give me my tablets, and he wouldn't, so i could of easily have done him some damage, then I deciced that I was leaving and going home, but I took a few minutes to myself and did some breathing excercises and started to calm down. We boarded the flight, and I started panicking again. Did some more breathing exercices and we were off. Because I had done the course I knew what was happening like the noise because of the landing gear (the wind dragging and making loads of noise ) the bing from the pilot to say the cabin crew could get up, then i was fine everything that i had worked at and learned made a massive diffrence to my rational thoughts

The other thing was that captin keith was flying my plane , well that was what my brain was telling me anyway.

thease are a few tips that helped me massively

1 watch the videos on this website until you are sick of watching them

2 read the books over and over again

3 practice the breathing excrecises because when I was in my state of panic I wouldnt have been able to count with my breathing and because I had practiced, it became natural, and i just did it

4 go on the fear of flying course. I had to travel 5 hours there & 5 hours back, and I have 3 children so no excuses.

5 Sit next to the window , i have never done that before and it helped because I could see what was happening through the window , where as if you sit in the middle you don't know why you are feeling your stomach going up and down

6 tighten your belt snuggle down in you seat look out of your window and look at how beautiful the view is

I would like to thank Keith, Vivian, and the people who were on the course with me. All your comments were very helpful, and i wouldnt have done it if it wasnt for your support!
I will probably speak to you all soon when I do my long haul flight :)

karen

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Karen

WONDERFUL WONDERFUL WONDERFUL. That must have taken some real determination and guts. Well done. So glad things worked out for you.

Keith and Vivienne.
Good work Karen, hope you had a nice time, time to book the next one!! I hope to get going somewhere further then Ireland to see how i can get on soon on a longer flight...without drinking!!
Hey Karen, wow this is fantastic! Well done you, really pleased you conquered this. Hope you had a good holiday too???
Karen, I read the first paragraph of "I did it" and thought - "that's me!!" I showed it to my husband and he said "that's you" Well done! If you were in the same state of mind as me and now you have flown successfully, I'm delighted for you and it's given me hope

Regards Alexa
Hi Karen, congratulations! I was so happy to read your post - I know how nervous you were from the ground course we were both on last month and it's just amazing what you have achieved. I hope you have chance to fly again soon and enjoy another success... Well done! Helen x
Well done, Karen. Dave and I are absolutely thrilled for you. When I think how nervous and upset you were at the start of the course, you have achieved so much in such a short space of time. You haven't climbed a hill, you have climbed a mountain. Good on ya! Now the world's your oyster.

Well, I DID IT, too! Dave and I flew to Dublin for a long weekend. I don't mind admitting that I was a bit apprehensive when we got up at 2.30 a.m. but I nibbled on my ginger biscuits (brilliant for settling the stomach), did my breathing exercises and so by the time I was ready to board the plane, I felt quite relaxed. No clammy hands, for once!

Dave had the window seat and as usual I sat in the middle but I actually managed to look out of the window for the majority of the flight. As we flew in over Dublin Bay, we could actually see our hotel which was situtated right next to the beach - amazing.

For once, Dave and I could enjoy the taking off and landing together. Dave was really proud of me and I felt really proud of myself.

On our return flight, I was totally relaxed. Not nervous at all. I have never felt like that before. I was able to sit in the airport lounge and watch all of the action on the ground. I was able to associate everything I saw with what Keith had told us on the course. I even saw the Captain inspecting his plane - very reassuring!

Here are a few tips which I hope will help:-

1. Book priority boarding so that you can sit just in front of the wing - you don't get that feeling of falling. It was an extra £16 but well worth it.
2. Take Ginger Biscuits if you feel apprehensive
3. Get the CD - absolutely invaluable. Excellent
4. If you go through turbulence, look towards the window and you will notice that the plane does not go up and down! It really helped me.
5. Watch what the ground staff are doing around the plane and you will then be able to associate what they are doing with all that Captain Keith has told you.

Finally, Dave has just been given a 'flight simulator' experience for his birthday and I am allowed to join him in the flight simulator. I'll let you know how it goes.

Well done again, Karen.

Julie
Thats great Karen, Im sure so many people are as proud of you as you are of yourself..

Its wonderful knowing people have overcome such fears...second only to knowing it yourself..

Well done...Ihope you are looking forward to flying again..its all onwards and upwards for you now..(scuse the pun!!)
CONGRATS KAREN!

I have a question, what pills were you taking that knocked you out on your previous flights?
First of all congratulations! Secondly, thank you Karen, your words are very encouraging. You know sometimes when you just feel that you cant do the next step and actually take a flight really really frightens you! There are times that i wonder if i will ever be able to get on a plane again. Your words gave me courage! I just need to do the next step and take a flight!
How long did it take you to take a flight?
Thankyou !, it took me , 15 days after i went on the course, but i had booked the flight before hand , which i do think helped because it was now or never to over come my fear, dont get me wrong im still not cured, but i am well on the way , the last flight i took was 3 weeks ago , and was still a little wobbly before i got on the plane, but no where near the way i was 12 months ago , im a completly different person , i even had something to eat ! and kept calm while landing in bad weather.
If you really do want to overcome your fear, you must be really strong with that voice thats telling you thats something is wrong , because its talking complete rubbish !!
prepare prepare prepare !!!! get the books , listen to the audio tapes, watch the videos on this site and do try and go on keiths course, it is well worth it !
you really must go for it , i know probably more than most how hard it is , to make that step , but i thought i could never change , but i have , and you REALLY could too !!!!
karen x

Nikoleta Michaelidou said:
First of all congratulations! Secondly, thank you Karen, your words are very encouraging. You know sometimes when you just feel that you cant do the next step and actually take a flight really really frightens you! There are times that i wonder if i will ever be able to get on a plane again. Your words gave me courage! I just need to do the next step and take a flight!
How long did it take you to take a flight?
Cody
it makes no difference what tablets i took , they didnt cure me , and they certainly didnt make me overcome my fear !
medication is definitely NOT the way !!
karen x

Cody Monta' said:
CONGRATS KAREN!

I have a question, what pills were you taking that knocked you out on your previous flights?
with a flight coming up - u give me hope. xxxx

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