Hello Captain Keith and everyone,

 

I cant believe this but I have booked myself on a flight to Marrakech in August. this will be over a year since I have flown and weirdly enough Marrakech was the last place I flew to. My best friend is getting married and she insists I come with her on her hen weekend which she is having there. Why does everyone want to go to Marrakech...whats wrong with England boohoo. I have explained that my fear has got worse and that I might not be able to do it but she says it wont be the same without me and feel so pressured that I HAVE BOOKED IT. Now I feel petrified brave and sick all at once. I know this is all got so out of hand since the Air France incident as I was doing so well before but I am determined to fly more this year so I suppose at least this is a kick in the right direction...anyway just posting this on the forum to give me strength. Am very scared.

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Caro

There's a long time until August to find the courage again! Start today....not so much emotive language. Tell me exactly how your fear has got worse. Give me evidence for it and then we can find a strategy but to just say your fear has got worse is not good enough....I want it in woords of one syllable.

You know the rules Caro....you're just testing me I know!

Keith
I'm sitting in my study, considering all of our fears and as I look at the window I see a plane landing. It's such a blessing to live near an airport - I see so many planes land and take off a day it really puts my fear into perspective. It's silly.

It's silly to be so panicked - I know. And I get that way even though I see all of these planes every day.

So have strength. I'll try too. I'm flying out to California in a month so I'm starting to get jitters as well. But that's all they are.. jitters. Be strong!
I know I know...and breathe...less emotion more fact! Truth is I dont really know how my fear has got worse I just know that when I think about flying or holidays my heart sinks and I feel sad...aaagh emotions again. I think the thought of flying and the thought of take off and something going wrong has completely overtaken rational thinking and probability. I keep thinking of the Air France crash and am scared of a fire or anything that can cause the pilot to lose control. I have gone back to child mode and unrealistic thinking..I just dont want there to be ANY fatal crashes and I cant bear the thought that the black boxes were never found in that crash as we will never really know what happened which is disastrous for negative black thinker Caro :(
More fact less emotion Ping ping and more ping is called for....very right Keith. Question is...have I let myself go too far now? I hope not cos am not giving up.

Captain Keith said:
Caro

There's a long time until August to find the courage again! Start today....not so much emotive language. Tell me exactly how your fear has got worse. Give me evidence for it and then we can find a strategy but to just say your fear has got worse is not good enough....I want it in woords of one syllable.

You know the rules Caro....you're just testing me I know!

Keith
Good luck Sara! Keep thinking of those planes you see daily, ours is just another routine flight...masses of luck - good for you for fighting your fear! (hey...how come am all sensible all of a sudden when helping you and so rubbish at helping myself?! hehe)

Sara Heddleston said:
I'm sitting in my study, considering all of our fears and as I look at the window I see a plane landing. It's such a blessing to live near an airport - I see so many planes land and take off a day it really puts my fear into perspective. It's silly.

It's silly to be so panicked - I know. And I get that way even though I see all of these planes every day.

So have strength. I'll try too. I'm flying out to California in a month so I'm starting to get jitters as well. But that's all they are.. jitters. Be strong!
NO YOU HAVE NOT LET YOURSELF GO TOO FAR...NOT UNLESS YOU GIVE IN TO THAT THOUGHT. Relax...we'll get you there like we have before and will do again. Keith

Caro said:
I know I know...and breathe...less emotion more fact! Truth is I dont really know how my fear has got worse I just know that when I think about flying or holidays my heart sinks and I feel sad...aaagh emotions again. I think the thought of flying and the thought of take off and something going wrong has completely overtaken rational thinking and probability. I keep thinking of the Air France crash and am scared of a fire or anything that can cause the pilot to lose control. I have gone back to child mode and unrealistic thinking..I just dont want there to be ANY fatal crashes and I cant bear the thought that the black boxes were never found in that crash as we will never really know what happened which is disastrous for negative black thinker Caro :(
More fact less emotion Ping ping and more ping is called for....very right Keith. Question is...have I let myself go too far now? I hope not cos am not giving up.

Captain Keith said:
Caro

There's a long time until August to find the courage again! Start today....not so much emotive language. Tell me exactly how your fear has got worse. Give me evidence for it and then we can find a strategy but to just say your fear has got worse is not good enough....I want it in woords of one syllable.

You know the rules Caro....you're just testing me I know!

Keith
Caro, you did it last time and I made it Italy we can do this again
Am not giving up...guess what am also booking a flight around September/October to a Greek island...aaaaagh get me...while I am still 39..lol! I must start practising pinging and deep breathing..my trip to Marrakesh is only a few months away! Well done for making it to Italy!!! Any other flights booked or planned? We will all support each other and fight the fear no way is the fear going to win over fun holidays, not a chance. Gulp...hehe

Jacqueline Robinson said:
Caro, you did it last time and I made it Italy we can do this again
Hello,
I am going to Morrocco next Tuesday...I am fearful (because of a dust on air an panic and it is a long flight - I have ADHD syndrome and not a lot of to do in a plane :-)) and excited because I love travelling.
Hen weekend in Marakesch. How lovely! Take nice photos please!

Daria
Caro, I too am going on another vacation this time to St Bart. You did it last year and you can do it again. Its ok your are a stong amazing women that can do anything. I remember you!!

Get out the rubber ban and stop any negitive thought thought that come it to your mind. I will be there for you !!

Dont cancel dont let the fear win.... YOU ARE A STONG AMAZING WOMEN THAT CAN DO ANYTHING!!
Jacqueline your message came through at the BEST time as I was just thinking to myself I CANT DO THIS I will have to cancel so now am going to rethink that one....why should I cancel I can do this am not letting the fear win!! You are so right! Do you know what it is aswell...I have got lazy in doing all the work, the pinging of the band, the positive affirmations etc...and if you dont keep working on it you slip back dont you?! Right...lets keep brave and well done you for booking flights, when are you going to St Bart?

Jacqueline Robinson said:
Caro, I too am going on another vacation this time to St Bart. You did it last year and you can do it again. Its ok your are a stong amazing women that can do anything. I remember you!!

Get out the rubber ban and stop any negitive thought thought that come it to your mind. I will be there for you !!

Dont cancel dont let the fear win.... YOU ARE A STONG AMAZING WOMEN THAT CAN DO ANYTHING!!
Come on Caro

You can do this. You've managed every other time so let's GO!!!

Do the things that work and try to see beyong the flight to the benefits of going....ring me if you 'd like to

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Keith
I just know that when I think about flying or holidays my heart sinks and I feel sad.

I can honestly say 'I know how you feel' Caro..but think how sad your going to feel by not going, youl feel sad that you have missed out on a lovely trip..sad that your fears have beaten you and sad that you will probably have to go through it all again when the opportunity of another flight comes up...and if you take that flight youl probably feel miserable when you realise that you could have made this forthcoming one too.

Im not a gambling man...If i put money on the hare at a greyhound race it would get get cramp and stop!...but I reckon, come the day..youl be fine and walk on that plane with ease...head held high with pride in yourself that you have overcome your demons.

You mentioned the Air France tragedy..and of course theres no point in pretending it didnt happen...the plane crashed for a reason..whatever it was...but be assured, it wasnt 'bad luck'..theres no reason to think your plane will mmeet the same fate just because the Air France one did...try and put it into perspective...would you never get in a car again because you had heard one had crashed?..of course you would, and remember, a lot more people are involved in car crashes everyday that are involved in Air incidents every year.

You have overcome the biggest barrier...you have actually booked the flight...if you really really really really really thought you wouldnt make it you wouldnt have even done that...good start..well done!!

Try and think long term...your long term happiness balanced against your short term fear/sadness...balance the two on a set of imagary scales..weigh up the results..and youl dance onto that plane...

Steve

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