I am going to the UK for Christmas to spend time with my husband and my family. This is all the way from New Zealand and I am absolutely terrified. And it's still a few months away!

I am okay with taking off and landing, but my worst thing is in the middle of the flight (in this case, two 12 hour flights with one stop over)... I think I am okay then always have a panic attack because I am just waiting for a big drop, or a thunderstorm, or something to go wrong. I get so tense as I am just waiting.

I really want to enjoy these flights.I am determined, but am at a point where I am living my life to the fullest now, in the event that something could happen...

In the event of storms - they wouldn't go through it if it was dangerous, but sometimes it feels worse and it's not doing anything harmful to the plane (just to us terrified passengers).Right??

We're going via Bangkok, and are flying with Thai Airways, which i heard are good but i have never flown with them before.

If I could be guaranteed/promised that I would arrive safely and return home safely too, then I could relax.

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I have nothing really helpful to say but I just wanted to let you know that that is EXACTLY how I feel, waiting for a big drop, to just plummet out of the sky!! It's horrible, I feel your pain.

Right... we avoid storms and it's no problem to the plane.

Yes I promise you that you'll get there and back safely.

Keith

It's such a horrible feeling isn't it? If we could just stop thinking about that it could almost be fun!

TP said:

I have nothing really helpful to say but I just wanted to let you know that that is EXACTLY how I feel, waiting for a big drop, to just plummet out of the sky!! It's horrible, I feel your pain.

Thanks Keith!!

Captain Keith said:

Right... we avoid storms and it's no problem to the plane.

Yes I promise you that you'll get there and back safely.

Keith

So I promised you and that still doesn't work?

Why is that?

Keith

It's worked in the sense of, okay, I can do this and will be okay. 

But I can't get the idea out of my head that I will there safely, but there may be a storm or sudden drops on the way. It's like I need to get past that thought.

You've promised me I will there and back safely, and honestly, that has helped.

Now I need to get into the mindset of, okay there might be a few hard bumps here and there, and we may pass a storm- but regarldess of that I will get there all safe and sound.

Mind over matter?!

Captain Keith said:

So I promised you and that still doesn't work?

Why is that?

Keith

That's great well done. Now I'll tell you about the bumps.

although it feels as if the plane is dropping a long way, it's unlikely that it moves half the height of an average room. In the cockpit the altimeter doesn't change.

The feeling of falling will always be greater than the feeling of going up. weather radar shows storms over 100 miles away which gives the crew over ten minutes to avoid them And a storm just doesn't suddenly appear, they take an hour or so to form. So there are no surprises!

sure there may be some lumps and bumps  but the plane is stronger than you'd imagine. the wings could bend up further than you could see from inside the plane. it's not hard to control a plane in turbulence.

Have a look at this video

Keith 

Hi Debs,

You know, sometimes I also close myself in some strange circle of crazy thoughts and I can't escape this circle. Anyway I have one good method to leave my bad thoughts. Think about pilots. Do you really think they are just crazy guys who like to risk ? No, it's a routine for them, just normal job and that's it. Listen to Keith. He is a pilot. He promise you that you will be safe. You know why ? Because he knows ! He is pilots and it was just routine for him all his career. Why now something should change ? I understand that pilots are highly trained, very good in what they are going and they are really aware about storms and turbulence. So just relax and enjoy your flight, because there is lots of things to be enjoyed :) You think about travel distance and how it is amazing to travel this amount of miles just in no time. Then you enjoy some entertainment, food, maybe some beer or wine, have time to read a book or sleep. Just enjoy :)

Wow...that's an interesting video. As soon as the seat belt sign on button made a noise, I tensed up. I associated it with danger maybe?

Thank you for sending that through - it's good to know that even though it feels horrible, that nothing else changes and it's not a danger.

Glad to hear that they have time to plan for storms, I had a bad experience once and the storm was miles away - and I was already worrying about what they would do, compared to what I think they should do (control freak, they have more experience than me what do I know). I think I need to trust the pilots more.

Thanks Keith, I'll watch a few more of your videos, and will save some on my tablet so i can watch them on the flight when I normally start to worry

Captain Keith said:

That's great well done. Now I'll tell you about the bumps.

although it feels as if the plane is dropping a long way, it's unlikely that it moves half the height of an average room. In the cockpit the altimeter doesn't change.

The feeling of falling will always be greater than the feeling of going up. weather radar shows storms over 100 miles away which gives the crew over ten minutes to avoid them And a storm just doesn't suddenly appear, they take an hour or so to form. So there are no surprises!

sure there may be some lumps and bumps  but the plane is stronger than you'd imagine. the wings could bend up further than you could see from inside the plane. it's not hard to control a plane in turbulence.

Have a look at this video

Keith 

Hi Darius,

Thank you :)

I know..it's like any job I guess.. I wouldn't go to work if I knew there were huge risks involved. It's getting my mindset right, as i said to Keith - I need to put more faith in the pilots. I need to try and enjoy and relax (currently learning how this relaxing thing works!!) knowing that the pilots are doing what they love... 

:)


Darius R said:

Hi Debs,

You know, sometimes I also close myself in some strange circle of crazy thoughts and I can't escape this circle. Anyway I have one good method to leave my bad thoughts. Think about pilots. Do you really think they are just crazy guys who like to risk ? No, it's a routine for them, just normal job and that's it. Listen to Keith. He is a pilot. He promise you that you will be safe. You know why ? Because he knows ! He is pilots and it was just routine for him all his career. Why now something should change ? I understand that pilots are highly trained, very good in what they are going and they are really aware about storms and turbulence. So just relax and enjoy your flight, because there is lots of things to be enjoyed :) You think about travel distance and how it is amazing to travel this amount of miles just in no time. Then you enjoy some entertainment, food, maybe some beer or wine, have time to read a book or sleep. Just enjoy :)

One week to go!!!!

I made it! and i am back safe and sound.

I was very nervous, but all flights were fine. The last leg home was a bit bumpy (to me) but hubby said it was normal and he didn't think it was bad at all. Maybe it's just me being tense.

They were long flights and i got a bit bored, as couldn't concentrate on any movies (too busy worrying). 

Anyway, everything was fine, and I relaxed a bit more which was good. Maybe next time will be even better and i might actually look forward to it (I can say that now because i am on the ground!!).

Feel the plane, love the plane, be the plane!!

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