getting jittery, an 8-hour flight in 2 weeks :/

I'll be off to Japan 2 weeks from now. Since my last flight a week ago, my nerves have been getting the better of me. I'm feeling more nervous than my last flight. 

My upcoming flight will involve a one-hour transit in Hong Kong. I have this irrational fear that I will make the leg to Hong Kong but will refuse to board the connecting flight to Japan. 

I've been unfocused at work and just very jittery all around. The anxiety is so strong that I've lost my appetite :( I've even started compiling a list of psycho-therapists in Japan and Hong Kong so that I can seek professional help in case I have a breakdown. 

This journey feels so lonely sometimes. I have well-meaning aquaintences who give me bad advice like, "someone should just punch you, then you can pass out". How come they don't understand that this only makes me feel worse? So miserable :(

One thing that has helped me to relax is to mediate for a few minutes every day. But if anyone has any advice on coping with my anxieties leading up to my flight, I'm all ears.

Thank you for reading my post. 

Best, Lyn 

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Comment by Sarah on November 28, 2012 at 4:43pm

Good to know.

I'm being bored and unproductive (non-productive?) in the office today so I may as well be of some use on here :)

Comment by Yilyn Lim on November 28, 2012 at 3:48pm

Hi Sarah, thank you for your words of encouragement. Reading them always makes me feel better and more confident :)

Comment by Sarah on November 28, 2012 at 9:20am

Hi Lyn.


Meditation sounds good - let us know if it helps. Apart from that, I'd just reiterate everything I said before you went to Thailand. You've done a lot of work on this and it's obviously starting to pay off as you're flying now (as opposed to the last 6 years.)

I agree with Keith too - picture yourself being confident and think about feeling great when you've completed your next flight.

I really get how difficult it is to let go of a fear that you've had for so long. I'm certainly guilty of doing that - thinking that as soon as I stop being afraid, something bad will happen. Like somehow my fear and anxiety is keeping the plane safe or... I don't know! It sounds daft written from the comfort of my sofa but so real on a plane. Either way, I'm trying to say I understand.

You're going to be able to take these flights and have fun in Tokyo (I love Japan. I lived there for a while in 2008 and had a great time.)

All the best

S

Comment by Yilyn Lim on November 27, 2012 at 1:17pm

Thanks for your words of encouragement Tony! You keep posting too :)

Comment by Yilyn Lim on November 27, 2012 at 1:16pm

Hi Captain Keith 

Thank you for your reply :) I know I have to break this chain of negative thoughts. It does nothing but feed my fear. I'm trying to focus on my vacation and what I'll be doing there instead. It's hard but I'm going to work hard at it!

Comment by Captain Keith on November 27, 2012 at 12:54pm

Lyn

it's time to stop feeding your fear

don't use such emotive language that only strengthens the links in your head to the fear. How can you predict how you will feel  about taking the next flight. Why not imagine that you'll be so proud of yourself that you'll enjoy the flight.

Was there nothing to be taken from your recent success apart from doubt. All that effort and pain and you're still looking on the dark side. Time to be more upbeat. Being upbeat won't invoke any gods of retribution. Stop fearing the worst and use the evidence that you have to compliment yourself for what you've achieved.

Keith

Comment by Tony Sirico on November 27, 2012 at 12:48pm
Dear Lyn You can do it you did it before we now have a network among us we are stronger than one we are many trying to overcome our fear . You are not alone! Let Go Let God who ever that may be to you. Keep posting you guys help me by knowing somebody is listening. Thanks. Tony S

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