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Is it mainly the turbulence you don't like?
I'm not a fan either, but I just talk to myself (not aloud, although that would provide some entertainment for the people next to me) - reminding myself it's safe etc. It sounds really odd, but I imagine myself on a river, riding a leaf. From the start of the flight if I am worried, i close my eyes and think of this leaf - every little detail such as it's nice and green and I can see all the tiny minute details and describe them in my mind. When it gets a bit bumpier I think oh no, didn't see that wave, thank goodness my leaf is sturdy (leaf might be the plane here). I can't control the river, but I can (in my mind) control the leaf.
It does sound a bit odd writing it out, but in practice it's actually a good strategy that worked for me.
I am not a good flyer, and like you I used to enjoy it. Nothing bad happened, I think it was just things in my life that I realized I had and didn't' want to lose (e.g. new husband), and in your case it may be because you have a daughter.
Strangely enough I fly much better on my own. As I don't have anyone to grab onto to if I get scared I use the above technique to calm myself. I often talk to the people next to me and tell them I am a bit nervous and everyone has been very understanding and have kept me talking to help keep my mind at ease.
Just remember nothing has changed since you loved flying to now - it's still just as safe (if not safer) - the only difference now is that you are thinking about it from a different perspective.
I'll be thinking of you on your flight, and know that it will go smoothly.
Good on you, it is about the coping mechanisms and I think you will find something that will work. A few of the discussions on here have really helped me and it put my mind at ease on my flights.
The return flight will be fine too - I know what you mean, but don't let it worry you on your holiday!
On the return flight you will be better prepared for it (as you have just done the fight on your own there) and you will have more confidence going on it on your own.
I agree with your friend - it will be easier because there is no one to voice your fears to - so even if you talk to your neighbour, you wouldn't be able to do things like ask them to stand outside the bathroom with you so you will learn to deal with your fears on your own (trust me, it's such an awesome feeling).
You will have the confidence to do these flights, and I know you will be awesome on the flights (which will get there and back safely)