I'm flying off to Thailand in less than 24 hours. Actually I should be in Bangkok in 24 hours. 

I'm feeling extremely nervous and anxious right now. Half of me is afraid that I will just turn around at the airport, half of me wants to beat this fear. It's a struggle.

On top of everything else, I seem to have caught a bug. My stomach not's well, don't really have an appetite and I'm feeling light-headed and giddy. I do suffer from vertigo and am getting treatment at the moment. Not sure if it's really a bug or just my nerves acting up.

I've been reading the posts by those of you who have gotten on a plane, and feeling inspired and scared at the same time. I don't know how I will get through tomorrow.

If anyone has any last minute words of encouragement, please reply or comment on my post. I would appreciate it :)

Thank you for reading and I hope everyone has a good weekend ahead!

Cheers, Lyn  

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Comment by Yilyn Lim on November 21, 2012 at 9:19pm

Hi Sarah 

Thanks for putting things in perspective for me :) It's true, even though I found the whole experience terrifying, I question myself why I waited 6 years to get on a plane. Despite everything, I'm kinda in awe of the whole experience!

Counting down to Tokyo now!

Best, Lyn  

Comment by Sarah on November 21, 2012 at 8:10pm

Flying (albeit not happily) isn't really a relapse as from 'not flying', is it?

Either way, big congratulations - the work paid off! Now you just have to keep doing what you're doing til it REALLY pays off.

Looking forward to hearing about Tokyo :)

Comment by Yilyn Lim on November 20, 2012 at 6:12pm

Hi Everyone!

I've landed safely back in Singapore. On the return leg, I was more nervous than when I was flying over. There was a thunderstorm in the middle of the afternoon, I had a late evening flight and I was inconsolable. I reluctantly took some anti-anxiety medication, which helped me get to the airport and onto the plane. 

I'm not advocating medication here. It's just that at that point in time, I took them as a last resort. If I could, I would like to have taken the flight without any of the medication but in this case, without them, I don't think I would have found the courage to even board the plane. 

I feel like I've relapsed a bit. I am now even more anxious about my Tokyo trip which involves 2 4-hour flights to and fro. That's in 3 weeks. The 2 hour journey home tonight felt very long, especially when it got slightly bumpy but I distracted myself by watching the in-flight entertainment. 

Also, special thanks to Sarah and Captain Keith for their support, advice and kind words. It has really made a difference to me. So, thank you!

Best, Lyn

Comment by Captain Keith on November 19, 2012 at 3:19pm

Take the flight and feel good.


Comment by Yilyn Lim on November 19, 2012 at 2:17pm
Thanks Sarah and Captain Keith for your replies :)
I'm trying to have a good time at the moment but the return flight has been hanging over my head. I was so panicky I contemplated taking a bus home, which would take 24 hours! :(
Tomorrow is my return flight back, I'm taking things one step at a time.
I'm going to listen to Captain Keith's CDs again later, I find them to be very effective in keeping me calm.
Thanks again for your replies. I'll update everyone again when I can.
Best, Lyn
Comment by Sarah on November 18, 2012 at 9:58pm

Hey, well done!!! :D

After 6 years, taking that flight was real achievement! Focus on the positives! Despite being scared, you did it! And in the run up to the flight, going through the airport and everything, you were calm and confident. Try to hold onto that!

I agree with Keith, 'elated' is a big ask! I also think that coming up with a whole new strategy in two days isn't really going to be possible... or helpful... or the best way to spend your time in Bangkok ;)

Accept that you're not going to be elated on your return flight, you're probably not even going to be happy for the whole time, but that's okay because you know you can get through it. And it'll get a bit better each time.

Enjoy Thailand and all the best for the return flight. Let us know how it goes.


Comment by Captain Keith on November 18, 2012 at 7:53pm

Hi Lyn

We won't let you give up!

You mustn't set your expectations so high.

What on earth made you think that you'd be elated? You haven't flown for six years...seems pretty good to me. You've taken the flight and that was the hurdle...and you're over it ...what else do you want at this stage?


Comment by Yilyn Lim on November 18, 2012 at 6:31pm
Hi Sarah and Captain Keith
I made it!!! But it was not all smooth-sailing. I felt calm and confident all the way till I reached the plane. Then I started to panic and cried for a good 5-10 minutes. The air crew were busy with other passengers and left me alone, which made me feel even more needy.
Take-off was a bit bumpy. The captain had told us beforehand that it would be and I appreciated that he used the term, "a little bumpy", as opposed to "turbulent".
Some parts of the flight were a little bumpy, but not to the extent of the captain turning the seat belt sign on. Everytime the plane hopped a little, I would grab onto the arm rests for dear life. I tried to use the 5-4-3-2-1 strategy of distraction but was too scared to actually follow through. I tried listening to Captain Keith's CD on turbulence but unfortunately the sounds in the background were too loud.
Having not flown for 6 years, I thought I would be elated to have reached this stage. Instead I am now convinced that I'm too scared to ever get on a plane again.
I'll be spending 2 days here in Thailand. I'll be devising a new strategy before my next flight.
I would be glad to hear any thoughts or advice you might have on my situation. Thank you so much for reading.
Best wishes, Lyn
Comment by Captain Keith on November 18, 2012 at 10:26am

Hi Lyn

sounds like you're doing all the right things ...well done.

Please be confident. Measure your fear on a scale of 1 to 10 and then aim to reduce that level by just one or two points for your flight. Don't expect to feel like I do when I fly ... that's too much to ask of yourself.

Just doing the flights ... even if you're terrified is going to be a success. Then after that you can start working on getting even better . But for now....doing it is success. May not be your idea of success but I can promise you that it is. And so will everyone else here.

All thinking of you and sending our thoughts ...


Comment by Yilyn Lim on November 18, 2012 at 5:23am

Hi Sarah

Thanks so much for your encouragement! :) 

My trip to the airport earlier this week was good. I found out where my check-in counters were and managed to see some planes. I could not see them taking off from where I were. I had lunch then left. 

I'm leaving for the airport in 2 hours and you're right, the anticipation is probably the worst bit. 

I'm am feeling what's to be expected of someone in my situation. I'm not resentful or bitter, I've accepted my fear and am going to deal with it the best way I can. 

I will be back in 2 days. I'll update you again on my flight :)

Best, Lyn 


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